Hi, I’m Toni
I help women who are really good at taking care of everyone else learn how to stop leaving themselves out of the equation.
I've always been fascinated by people. Why we become who we are. Why we repeat patterns we desperately want to change. Why we can understand ourselves incredibly well and still find ourselves doing the same damn thing.
I'm a somatic trauma therapist, and I work with thoughtful, capable women who are tired of overthinking, overfunctioning, second-guessing themselves, and trying so hard to get it right.
And I know these patterns from more than textbooks.
I've had my own experiences that taught me to pay very close attention to other people—to care what they thought, keep people happy, and adapt myself in order to feel safe and connected.
I'm not going to make your therapy about my story. But those experiences have shaped the therapist I am and the way I understand the incredibly smart things humans learn to do to survive.
I don't think you're broken.
I don't think you're lazy, crazy, unmotivated, too sensitive, too much, or bad.
I think your mind and body learned ways of protecting you that made sense somewhere along the way.
That's why I'm much more interested in asking "What makes sense about this?" than "What's wrong with you?"
That doesn't mean I'll endlessly validate everything you do. If I notice a pattern that may be keeping you stuck, I'll bring it into the room. Sometimes we'll agree. Sometimes we won't. Sometimes something I say might activate the hell out of you—and we'll get curious about that, too.
I believe therapy can be safe, warm, and compassionate while still asking something of you.
You can tell me the thing you're afraid to say out loud.
The thought that feels selfish, mean, or petty.
You don't have to clean it up for me.
One of my favorite parts of this work is watching shame start to loosen when someone realizes they can tell the truth and still be met with curiosity, compassion, and connection.
To me, healing is about becoming more fully alive.
Not becoming a better, calmer, perfectly healed version of yourself who never gets anxious, angry, overwhelmed, or triggered.
I want you to trust yourself. Know what you want and believe it matters. Grieve honestly. Laugh easily. Feel more at home in your body. Stay connected to the people you love without disappearing from yourself.
I don't want therapy to only help you suffer less.
I want it to help you participate in your life more.
The Professional Stuff
I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with advanced training in EMDR, IFS, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and trauma-conscious yoga. I'm currently completing the three-year Somatic Experiencing® Professional Training and have completed Beginning Level II.
If you're looking for a therapist who won't flinch when you tell the truth, will laugh with you, challenge you when it matters, and help you find your way back to yourself, I'd love to meet you.
